Sitting barefoot on the carpeted floor in a room with no furniture, several women stare anxiously at the doorway.
They are waiting for their mentor – a good-looking woman swathed in a fitting romantic dress as a visual shortcut to what’s about to unfold steps in.
President of the School of Love Science Perfection, Svitlana Pashkevych is about to teach them many things – from training vagina muscles to oral sex with the help of love dolls and dildos of different sizes.
If that’s too much dirty talk for you in one sentence, you are old school, because “sex is not dirty or vulgar; it is spiritual,” says Pashkevych, a beautifully shaped women in her 40s who says she is 19 when asked her age.
She started the school four years ago, converging her versatile knowledge in psychology, sexology and gestalt therapy under the roof of a comfortable three-story house on the outskirts of Kyiv. It is not just sex on everyone’s mind that needs to be explained.
With no euphemisms allowed, Pashkevych unwraps intimacy with a goal to reach harmony in overly complicated human relations.
Shrink sessions, relationship workshops, and other how-to seminars fell on Ukraine some five years ago.
Mostly young professional women started signing up as eagerly as if it was a new fat-burning class in their gym.
Those weighed down by masculine features they had to develop to compete with men in white-collar jobs have suddenly discovered they had brains to wage a battle in court or hammer out a deal in business but no understanding of how to actually be a woman.
“Sex is not dirty or vulgar; it is spiritual,” says Pashkevych
Figuring out the relationship formula, many of them wanted a promotion, in other words – lessons in sex. And relationship gurus were happy to oblige.
Sexology professor and president of Andrology and Sexual Medicine Association Mykola Boiko welcomes the arrival of sex schools.
“Learning about sex is always good. A new generation is much more open about it [than their parents] and eager to solve problems.” Either to make up for the lack of sexual education in high schools, awkward conversations with parents about intimacy or simply to impress their lovers with a new trick, women get hooked up.
Problems with kissing and touching techniques? For Hr 1,800 Pashkevych and her colleagues will show you the best possible ways.
The same price tag is on the two-day course in oral sex. To train one’s vagina will be a pricey exercise, with Hr 5,000 gone after four days of practice.
“It’s pretty expensive,” says Yulia Korbut, 32, one of the school’s students who has been investing her money in improving love and sex life for about three years now.
“But it is worth it. This school helped me to awaken a real woman inside.” She is a smiley, well-shaped lady with light makeup and bright eyes that give you a chance to feel the inner light of their owner.
Korbut is not married yet, which for Ukrainian demographics is unusual.
But she is not upset: “Practically, the school taught me how to enjoy life. It changed my sex feelings completely and more so it changed how I perceive myself through sex. I became a lot more sensual and started getting more pleasure from sex,” she says. Korbut is not the only one.
Some 30 women gathered on the carpet with her on that Saturday evening to learn how to become a woman for Hr 250 in three hours.
A student from another school also got a magic transformation but for much less money.
To recover from a painful breakup with her boyfriend and “to become more feminine,” Iryna Demchenko, 22, signed up with Insight Club.
For Hr 2,400 she learnt how to attract men’s attention and make them appreciate her through a series of lectures on women and men’s psychology, as well as the training in erotic massage, intimate muscles training and role play.
“I am not shy any more talking about my orgasms and sex problems and learned how to make a man happy. All women should know these things,” she smiled cunningly.
Insight Club guru Viktoria Slavina says she has clients from various age and social status groups – from 16 to 69 – “but who cares, rich and poor – they have the same problems.”
These problems, however, are usually of a simple human nature – a lack of confidence and some bad experience, which women can get over without paying their month’s salary worth, some women say.
Politician and one of Ukraine’s style icons Natalia Korolevska was surprised to hear how expensive the sex schools are.
“Of course, even a strong woman wants to feel weak and feminine,” she said, “but people should think twice before making such decisions in order to avoid fraud, as it sounds like an expensive pleasure.”
Kyiv Post staff writer Daryna Shevchenko can be reached at [email protected]
